Relationship Insecurities.

I've seen this happen way too often. A significant other goes away on vacation or abroad for a couple weeks/months and the person stuck at home is left worrying their pants off in hopes that their mate won't cheat on them while they are away.

I mean, if someone is going to cheat, they are going to do it whether you want it or not, and theres nothing you can do about it. So why worry? People spend too much time worrying about things that are out of their control, and to be honest, it's a waste of time.

Essentially there are only two scenarios that can happen.

A. Significant other goes abroad and cheats -----> break-up, move on. (this is assuming they admit it)
B. Significant other goes abroad and doesn't cheat ----> live life happily ever after.

Human beings are conditioned to fulfill their sexual desires. We can't blame the foreigners.

I've met american men, canadian men, south american men, english men, french men, german men, etc etc etc etc and we're all the same. Underneath it all, men are generally the same tail-chasing hormone driven beings that are willing to say anything to get into any girl's pants. We're all the same species so I don't understand why people expect foreigners to be different. Same with women. It's just a more highly publicised scenario of "the grass is always greener".

I'm not saying being worried is a bad thing.

Being a bit worried is normal/natural.

Being very worried isn't. Even if she/he doesn't, you're always going to think she/he's lying/actually did cheat. That'll ruin the relationship. If she's not given you any reason to worry about her behaviour then don't be.

Even if she does cheat? So? If she tells you then, fine, you managed to find out now. Better than being married for 5 years and then finding out she had cheated on you.

You can't control what she does so no real point worrying about something that's out of your control.

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